Wednesday, June 9, 2010

You Know It’s Love When ...

Came across this article and I think it's kind of true...

You know it’s love when...

•the first thing you think of in the morning and the last thing you think of before you go to bed is him/her.
•the very thought of being without them makes you want to cry
•whenever you are feeling down, all you have to do is imagine their cute little face and you begin to smile
•you get that feeling of fuzzy e rushy love (i.e. you feel all funny inside, you get butterflies in your tummy)
•you would give anything just for time to stop so you can be with them just a few more minutes….
•thinking of him/her sleeping brings you the most peaceful, sweetest feeling
•you can communicate with them without speaking
•you make up little things that only the both of you know about
•all you want is to make them happy
•you get a rush just from seeing them, or a touch. better than any drug
•they can make you cry so easily, be it from sadness or happiness
•you can never imagine even being with anyone else

The truth about true love

•If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn’t choose to rest in the other person’s heart.
•If you find someone else in love with you and you don’t love him, feel honored that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return.
•If you fall in love with another, and he falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame. Let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time.
•Remember that you don’t choose love. LOVE CHOOSES YOU. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in anyway you can. This is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them. Remember this, and keep it to your heart. Love has its own time, its own seasons, and its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into staying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you. But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do.
•Love always had been and always will be a mystery. Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life. If you keep your heart open it will come again.

Love or Infatuation?

•Infatuation is instant desire. It is one set of glands calling to another.
•Love is a friendship that has caught fire. It takes root and grows, one day at a time.
•Infatuation is marked by a feeling of insecurity. You are excited and eager, but not genuinely happy. There are nagging doubts, unanswered questions, little bits and pieces about your beloved that you would just as soon not examine too closely. It might spoil the dream.
•Love is quiet understanding and the mature acceptance of imperfection. It is real. It gives you strength and grows beyond you to bolster your beloved. You are warmed by his/her presence even when he/she is away. Miles do not separate you. You want him/her nearer, but near or far, you know he/she is yours and you can wait.
•Love says, “Be patient. Do not panic. Plan your future with confidence.”
•Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. If you are honest, you can admit it is difficult to be in one another’s company unless you are sure it will end – in intimacy.
•Love is the maturation of friendship. You must be friends before you can be lovers.
•Infatuation lacks confidence. When he/she is away you wonder if he/she is cheating. Sometimes you check.
•Love means trust. You are calm, secure and unthreatened. Your beloved one feels that also and that makes them even more trustworthy.
•Infatuation might lead you to do things you will regret later, but love never will.
•Love is an upper. It makes you look up. It makes you think up. It makes you a better person.

Ten questions to ask yourself about your relationship

•What do I want from this relationship?
•Have I told him/her what is important to me in a relationship?
•Does he/she tell me what is important to him/her in a relationship?
•Am I happy with the way things are?
•What type of changes would make it better?
•Can we talk about touching?
•Do I feel good about the touching we do?
•Am I feeling pressured or am I pressuring?
•How does the relationship affect other things or people in my life?
•Who can I talk to when things get tough?

The definition of mature love

•both are individuals apart from the other
•each accepts the fact that neither is perfect
•the relationship is strong in tough times as well as happy times
•the love gives each person energy to devote to all aspects of life
•the two people are close friends
•each person continues to grow as an independent human being
•there is joy in giving as well as receiving
•there is honesty and trust between the two people
•each feels a responsibility to the others well being

Infatuation is not love

•the person depends on the relationship for self esteem
•the person takes more from the relationship than they give
•each is jealous of the others separate activities
•the relationship drains the person of energy
•the person is afraid that the other person will lose interest in them
•the person can only think of the other person

Posted by: I dunno who... hahahaha. didnt really bother to remember that person's name. Sorry ya :)

Thursday, June 3, 2010

My First Italian Word

"Mi piaci..." meaning I Like you in English!!! I learn this from my friend's Italian boyfriend yesterday. A group of us (Annie, Casendra n Italian BF, Loong, Calintz and Kong Hoong) went for movie in Tropicana City Mall - Prince of Persia. After the movie, we went to 798 for a drink, chit chatting and keepo-ing around. First it was kinda fun, but because of the Symantec event in Sime Darby Convention Center (where most of my time is standing and walking around with those heels) and all those sleepless night I feel very tired and sleepy. So does Old man Loong - can't blame him... he's OLD!!!! wahahahha if he ever see this, I'm sure he will kill me. Anyway, I don't think he will get a chance to know that I'm talking bad bout him here!!!! hehe. Reach home almost 1am in the morning. And I'm Zombified this morning... SIGH.... the worst thing was... I LEFT MY HANDPHONE AT HOME!!!!!!!!!!

Saturday, May 22, 2010

To love or Be loved?

"To love someone is nothing, to be loved by someone is something, but to be loved by the one you love is everything."

Last Friday during lunch my friend asked me a question... If I got a chance to choose, who will I be with; the one that I love or the one that love me. I think for a while and I told him, when I was young I will choose to be with the one that I love. I always think that if I am with the one that I love, things will turn out to be picture perfect. Imagine this, you and the one you love living happily ever after...isn't it perfect? but that's no PERFECT in this world. Nothing is PERFECT. To love someone you need to sacrified lots and lots of stuff. Human are greedy, they tend to take things for granted when they know you love them more than they do. They tend to do things that will hurts you. The feeling is not good at all.
After seeing and experiencing the pain, Now...I will choose to be with the one that loves me. Of coz I need to have at least a little feeling for the other party too right? Coz being loved is a very wonderful thing... you know that they will be there when you need them, you know that they will there when you need a shoulder to cry on, to share your happiness as well as sadness. Someone that won't leave you alone when you don't want to be alone. Someone that cares for you... Someone that willingly do almost everything for you... Isn't it more wonderful that way???
And of coz, if I really get to choose... I will choose to be with the one that I love and loves me back... but like I said, nothing is perfect. Even if they do exist, I won't be the lucky one... so stop dreaming and go to sleep... :) or I think I should put it this way... GO TO SLEEP and START DREAMING!!!!!

Cheers

Thursday, May 20, 2010

Lost And Found

I lost my anklet few weeks back. Was looking high and low for it… from my bedroom to my brother’s bedroom to my car and I even try to look for it in my office but to no success. Then I tell myself… stop looking for it. It will sure turn out by itself one day. My life experience taught me; the more you go looking for it… the more you can’t find it. So, I gave up. After a few days, I was looking for clothes to wear to work and I pick up this dress from my bed and something fell out and landed on the floor. … My anklet.

Monday, May 17, 2010

Friends That I Like To Keep Forever...

Another Chinese series that I watch recently makes me think of this topic to write; Friendship. How many friendship in this world that can last forever? How many true friends that we will have throughout our lifetime? How many of them will last? Many people will walk in and out of our life, but only true friends will leave footprints in the heart. Friendship is the most important things to me besides my family. When I see them happy; I’ll be very happy but when I see them sad; my heart cries with them. I do have lots and lots of friends but only few of them that I care and wanna keep with me for as long as I can. I’m very blessed and lucky to have them to support me when I’m down. Someone to share not only my happiness but my sadness as well.

Angeline – my secondary school friend for more than 15 years, we share almost everything. Secrets, clothes, shoes… I even stay at her house last time for a while when we are schooling. We go lepak together, clubbing together, sleep together etc etc. She knows me very well. Even though we do not see each other as often now and some misunderstanding happened here and there, she is still my very good friends. I really hope that she will find her happiness one day.

Celine – My first IT Line friend that I know from SiS. She too share a lots of my secret. My dark sides. Hahhahaha. She keeps me up when I’m down. She listens to my crappy stories. Stay up with me when I’m sad and when I need someone to talk. Giving me advise even thought she knows that it won’t get into my mind at that period of time. Never fails to listen to me. Never fails to go out with me during my hard times. God bless her and may all her wishes come true (too greedy huh?? At least one come true la… So… Celine, better think twice before you make your wish :p)

Audrey – My second friend from IT Line from SiS too. She cares for me very much. Taught me many many things. She is like a big sister to me even though I’m older than her (22 days  ) younger days; I’m very naïve, very blur, always get into troubles but she will be there to help and teach me what to do. Never give up on me. She brings me to many places that I never been to. She helps me financially and physically and never expect any return from me. Without her, I won’t be what I am now in IT line. I do care for her a lot too. Her love live is very complicated and I pray to GOD that one day, she will have a simple and happy one.

Annie – My ex colleague from Eisentech. When I first know her, I don’t really like her. She is a very straight forward and stubborn girl. She has a very firm self believe. But after getting to know her, she is a very nice girl after all. And I start to admire her self believe (yuen chat) which I can’t and don’t have (I am very soft hearted and changes often). She is very helpful and she rescue me away from my ex company. Thanks to her.

Loong – My ex patimas colleague. Not very close last time. But dunno when and dunno how we started to hang out together. Movies, dinner, drinking, clubbing and we even go to holiday together. He likes teasing me and damn irritating at times. He likes to disturb me even when I told him I’m not in the mood to play. Never once serious when talking to me. Never once will get a straight answer from him. But I think that is what makes him so special to me. I do hope that one day he will find his perfect partner and live happily together.

Casendra – My current colleague. Just got to know her not more than 3 months. But we click.. err.. I click .. err.. we click… (don’t know what’s on her mind but I find her very nice and easy to get along) My car pool partner to work now. It’s nice to have her company when driving to work. The road seems not that long after all and the jam doesn’t seem as long as it seem. We even plan a trip together to Langkawi on August. Can’t wait for the day to come. I really need a break!!! And I’m sure we will have lotsa fun there. Hopefully we will still be friend even when either one of us leave our current company.

Below poems are specially dedicated to all of you… cheers…

人生於世上有幾個知己
多少友誼能長存
今日別離共您雙雙倆握手
友誼常在您我心裡
今天且再暫別
他朝也定能聚首
縱使不能會面
始終也是朋友
說有萬里山
隔阻兩地遙
不需見面
心中也知曉
友誼是改不了

A TRUE FRIEND
A true friend never walks away
A true will always stay
A true friend looks out for you
A true friend will guard your secrets
Like a precious gift
A true friend is there for you
To give you a helpful lift
A true friend tries to make you smile
Tries to replace that frown
They may not always succeed
But they rarely let you down
These arms for you are open
This heart for you does care
And when I think you need me
I'll try to always be there
I'll listen to your fears
I promise not to laugh
Comfort your falling tears
I'll make this friendship last
I'll keep you near to my heart
I'll always hold you dear
Even when we're miles apart
Even when you're here
I hope I am to you
Everything you are to me
For the friendship we have
Is a special one indeed.

Thursday, May 13, 2010

Timing...

Someone posted the below in my Facebook. After reading it, it bring back lotsa memories to myself. When you meet the correct person at the correct time, it will be happily ever after (which didn't happen to me before and I'm still wishing upon a star for it to fall down); When you meet the wrong person at the correct time, your heart will be broken into a million pieces (hahahahah.... this happened to me before. It hurts like mad. Took me few months to recover... but before I manage to collect back all the broken pieces, it broke into thousand pieces again. But this time it's not that bad as I already know that things like that will repeat itself. My friend warned me everyday, every second not to let it happen anymore. She ask me not to play with fire as I am the one that will get burn. I told her I can't help it as he really reminds me of him. Sometimes I wonder do I really like him or because he act and talk like him?? I don't know. So I decided to leave it to "HIM" He will make a way when there seems to be no way... He will be my guide and he works in way we cannot see.... He will sure make a way for me.... I Believe in HIM. He's Almighty); When the time is wrong, and you meet with the wrong people... then its doomed!!! The worst scenerio is... When you meet someone right at the wrong time. Isn't life interesting?? You'll never know what you'll get and when you'll get it. Be patient. Be brave. Be happy. Life goes on...

對的時間,遇見對的人,是一生幸福。
對的時間,遇見錯的人,是一場心傷。
錯的時間,遇見錯的人,是一段荒唐。
錯的時間,遇見對的人,是一生嘆息

For those of you that meet the correct person at the correct time, please love and appreciate your partner. Not everybody is as lucky as you to have someone you love beside you.

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

緣份

When I come across the below poem, I was touch by it's meaning. It's so so true. I believe that if things are fated to be together; no matter where they are, how far they are, how long they know each others or even if they do not know each others... They will eventually be together. In our life, we might love lots and lots of people... but only those FATED to be together will be together....

緣份是一件很奇妙的事
無論相隔多远或者相識多久
即使萍水相逄
有緣始終會相遇相識, 相交相知
在我們人生中會遇到很多人
但我們愛的人可能不止一個
只是最有緣的才會在一起


Cheers...

adeline